The Sex Myth explores the insecurities and pressures we all feel to have a “normal” sex life. But what exactly is “normal?” Hills spent years researching the social factors that impact our sexual desires and actions. Decades after the sexual revolution, many young people feel like they’re not having enough sex because of the way sex is thrown at us in movies, TV, and all other aspects of pop culture. Yet despite the fact that many of us feel sexually inadequate, slut shaming and religious institutions actively shame young people – especially young women – for pursuing sex.
I was a huge fan of The Sex Myth back when I read it in 2015 and was ecstatic to hear that it is coming to off-Broadway this summer! In just one week “The Sex Myth: A Devised Play” premieres at the historic HERE Theater in West Soho.
SPOILER ALERT/CONTENT WARNING: This post contains spoilers from the Netflix series 13 Reasons Why and discusses sexual assault and rape culture.
You’ve probably heard of the new Netflix series, 13 Reasons Why. Like most Netflix series, it is taking the Internet by storm. I was hesitant to watch the show at first because it looked very sad (you know from the beginning that the heroine has killed herself), and I thought I was too old to watch a show based on a young adult novel. However, I am really glad I decided to watch it. The series is raw, suspenseful, has a great soundtrack, and is filled with a cast of dynamic, diverse characters.
The show is about a 17-year-old girl named Hannah Baker who records 13 tapes before she kills herself. Each tape is about a person in her high school who hurt her somehow. Whether they actively did something malignant, or unintentionally triggered a previous trauma, each tape describes a heart-wrenching event that shaped Hannah’s decision to take her own life. She drops all 13 tapes off with her friend, Tony before she dies, and he passes them to the first person who is discussed in … Read more
Fangirls rejoice—the new season of OITNB has dropped in all its feminist glory!
Since OITNB hit Netflix in 2013, it’s become a force to be reckoned with, weaving together engaging storytelling, a dynamic ensemble cast, and groundbreaking commentary on social issues that most mainstream shows are too afraid to even hint at.
In particular, OITNB was the first real introduction many viewers had to the ever-expanding world of American prisons. And that’s part of the appeal: in a sea of primetime cop shows and law-and-order-obsessed nightly news programs, OITNB is one of the only shows that dares to challenge the idea that criminal justice is always just. Litchfield Penitentiary isn’t just where we put the “criminals.” Its prisoners are people with complicated stories not so unlike our own.
…But it’s also entertainment. Lucrative entertainment at that. The kind that draws in millions of subscribers and drives advertising revenues through the roof. And while that doesn’t cancel out the show’s importance, whose interests are your marathon binge-watching sessions, Facebook rants and Twitter epiphanies really serving — those of actual women in prison, or the profit margins at Netflix HQ?
This post was sponsored by S+HE Intimate Fitness. Although this post is sponsored, all opinions are my own.
How do I get all these little bumps off my bikini line?
How is my vagina actually supposed to smell?
Am I supposed to use regular soap to clean my sex toys?
We all have questions about our lady bits. Unfortunately, many of us are afraid to ask these questions and turn to problematic magazines like Cosmo that are more interested in selling ads for dangerous douching products than giving actual advice.
I had the opportunity to test out a line of products that is actually good for your vagina. It’s called the S+HE Intimate Fitness Skincare System. S+HE is the 1st pH balanced skin care line designed for the specific needs of women’s intimate health and overall skin well-being. The products smell natural – unlike the weird, fake smells of other vagina products – and they actually feel good. And here’s another perk: they actually work! I’ve been using the AfterShave product for a week now and I’m already seeing my shaving bumps start to disappear!
I strongly recommend this product line for anyone looking for vag products that are … Read more
Kat asked me simply, “What’s your favorite Disney character?” I answered immediately, Tinker Bell.
I’ve forever been drawn to the feisty fairy that goes after what she wants despite all obstacles. No little girl was going to come in and take her love away, or ruin the good thing she had going in Neverland. Nope, she’d secure her happy ending, no matter what.
That is how Shoot Down the Wendy Bird was born. It’s about the fire that makes you unstoppable on the journey to get what you want. It is permeated with the drive to make the most of opportunities and situations, and to empower yourself to take an active role in your destiny. It is what these short stories and poems all share, even if they are all so very different. At the core of this book is the inherent passion to live a better, happier, and more magical life.
The first lines of Julie Zantopoulos‘ debut book, Shoot Down the Wendy Bird: A Collection of Short Stories & Poetry ask what is arguably the most important question for people of the Millennial generation: “What’s your favorite Disney character?” If you don’t have an immediate answer … Read more
This post was sponsored by Carvaka Sex Toys. Although this post is sponsored, all opinions are my own.
I think we can all agree that sex toys rock. There’s a lot of stuff out there – big, small, even handmade…
Sex toys are fun, but you don’t always need to spend money to spice up your sex life. I’m delighted to share an infographic today from Carvaka Sex Toys. It describes the little known natural aphrodisiacs you can find right in your kitchen!
Everyday Aphrodisiacs – An Infographic Guide
Romance is wonderful but sometimes it can be difficult to keep it going especially in a long term relationship. With so many outside distractions in today’s world, predominantly smartphones, it can be difficult to break through the noise and find some time for that special someone.
A great way to reconnect is to cook a meal for your partner plus that way you can incorporate some aphrodisiacs in the mix to bump up the loving feeling. This infographic from Carvaka Sex Toys aims to pinpoint some of the aphrodisiacs that you might not already be aware of – some that might even already be in your fridge or store cupboard…Check … Read more
It’s no secret that Americans are fascinated by witches. The amount of witch-related popular culture that we as a country produce is so great it could easily be its own genre. Chances are that at some point in their lives, most of the readers of this post will have had at least one witchy guilty pleasure, and in my experience that is particularly the case for women and queer men. Why, you ask, are we so in love with witches? Maybe up until this point you’ve been unsure or never considered the query. Well buckle up kiddos, because I, Alex J. Miller, self-proclaimed witch expert (and possible witch myself), am about to take you on a rollercoaster ride of witchcraft in American popular culture, at the end of which you’ll be able to proudly proclaim, “Yes, I did watch Witches of East End for nine hours straight last Saturday, and I loved every minute of it!”
Some of the first permanent European settlers arrived on our Atlantic shores in the early 17th century, and with them they brought all their hopes, dreams, smallpox, complete disregard for indigenous cultures, shoe buckles, and ideas about witches. The contemporary … Read more
Fifty years after the sexual revolution, we are told that we live in a time of unprecedented sexual freedom; that if anything, we are too free now. But beneath the veneer of glossy hedonism, millennial journalist Rachel Hills argues that we are controlled by a new brand of sexual convention: one which influences all of us—woman or man, straight or gay, liberal or conservative. At the root of this silent code lies the Sex Myth—the defining significance we invest in sexuality that once meant we were dirty if we did have sex, and now means we are defective if we don’t do it enough.
~ The Sex Myth, by Rachel Hills
When I was in high school I hated not having a boyfriend. To get my mind off my relationship woes, I imagined what life would be like for me in college. I figured I’d have a huge sexual awakening, that boys would be fawning all over me and I would have a new boy every weekend. The boys in my high school were just too dumb to pursue the smart, quiet girl from the drama club, right? I didn’t have my first kiss until the day before my … Read more
Shira Hereld, contributing writer at The Feminist Feline, works at Street Sense, an organization that elevates voices on poverty issues and creates economic opportunities for people experiencing homelessness in Washington, DC. She wanted to share this exciting event with readers:
In DC, at least 7,000 individuals have no place to stay on any given night.
The experience of homelessness is traumatizing, dehumanizing, and
terrifying, particularly for women trying to remain safe on the street and
in shelters. But every so often, some of these talented women manage to
break the cycle of homelessness and speak their truths.
On August 26th, two African-American female directors will present short
films documenting their struggles to survive and elevate themselves above
homelessness in Cinema from the Street, Part 2.
Join a courageous mother as she struggles to protect and raise her daughter
in one of D.C.’s most infamous and inhospitable shelters. Then, journey
alongside a survivor of homelessness and sexual assault as she reflects on
her past trauma and present path to recovery.
Here’s the incredible trailer:
Date: Wednesday, August 26, 2015
Time: 6:30 – 8:30 pm
Place: Landmark’s E Street Cinema, 555 11th St NW, Washington, District of Columbia 20004… Read more
This post was sponsored by Amtrak and Her Campus Media. Although this post is sponsored, all opinions are my own.
Guess who’s back?
Back again. Cor-inne’s back. Tell a friend.
[Ok I absolutely despise Eminem but that sound is way too catchy. For more on my thoughts on Eminem, check out this.]
ANYWAYS, I just had the two busiest yet most rewarding weekends ever. If you’ve been following my Instagram, Twitter and Facebook pages (if you’re not then you’re mean), you know that I just experienced blog conferencepalooza. I attended #BlogHer15 two weekends ago (July 16-18) and Her Conference this past weekend (July 25-26).
I am a member of both the BlogHer Publishing Network and the Her Campus Blogger Network, but originally I only intended on going to BlogHer. (I bought a student discount ticket months before for under $100. I highly recommend this to anyone in school because regular priced tickets can get pretty pricey). I was all set for the one conference: I requested the right amount of days off of work, booked my bus and found a roommate (Kitten Holiday – you have to check out her awesome dating/sex blog!). I got … Read more