Shatter the Silence: My Sexual Assault Abroad

In this guest post, my good friend Shira Hereld courageously tells her sexual assault story from when she was abroad in New Zealand.

 

Owning the Story

When people ask me about term abroad, I typically say “The best time of my life.”  I mean it.  But this statement hides a raw truth I’ve hidden for over a year from almost everyone. While studying abroad in New Zealand, I was raped.

My fingers resist typing that sentence. Why tell people?  The real question should be – why have I not told people?  If I were mugged, I would call the police, my parents, probably post about it on Facebook.  Even now, though, the fact of my sexual assault feels like a dirty secret that should be swept under my heart’s rug.

Only I can’t leave this “dirty secret” alone anymore.  Too much has changed; too much has been broken and repaired; too many other survivors have been silenced.  I have to be brave for them.  I have to own my story.

For survivor allies, I hope reading this leads you to greater understanding and compassion.  For survivors, I hope this frees you from the shackles of shame and inspires you … Read more

Hey Fellow Bloggers! Join this Giveaway!

This Monday I made the fantastic decision to host my first giveaway. If you haven’t entered yet, you only have 4 days left to do so. You don’t want to miss out on a chance to win a box of goodies from Pam of Hodge Podge Moments or ad space on Hodge Podge Moments and Wandering Forevermore!

I wanted to let all of my blogging friends know of an awesome Christmas giveaway hosted by Brenda of the awesome book blog Daily Mayo.

All you have to do is write a post listing your book and/or geeky holiday wishlist by November 23.

The pay-in is really small: just $2 per social link worth 1 point and $5 per social link worth 10 points. There are going to be some awesome prizes, including two cash prizes and one physical prize! Also, if you’re an author, you can add your e-book to the giveaway!

Convinced? Sign up for the giveaway here!


I hope that you all had an awesome National Cat Day!

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Marvel Comics celebrated by posting illustrations of cats dressed as superheroes on their Facebook page! Anyone else super pumped for “Avengers: Age of UltronRead more

Capitalism in Feminist Clothing: Know the Difference Between Money-Making Gimmicks and Genuine Activism

By Alex Miller

This past Tuesday, FCKH8.com released its latest video, entitled “F-Bombs for Feminism: Potty-Mouthed Princesses Use Bad Word for Good Cause.” Although my initial reaction to this video was an eye-roll so hard it hurt and a speedy dismissal, after seeing many people I otherwise respect fall into its cheap trap all over social media I decided my silence was no longer appropriate. So, I want to be explicit and loud when I say this: FCKH8.com and this video are not only despicable capitalist gimmicks, they are detrimental in every way to the feminist cause.

First of all, and very importantly, I want to set the record straight on FCKH8.com. FCKH8.com has been trolling the internet since 2010, and their goal isn’t really to stop hate, it’s to make money. Make no mistake, this a for-profit t-shirt retailer. In the video, it says the company donates five dollars for every article of clothing sold to “kickass charities.” That means that if you buy one of the “anti-sexism hoodies” for $34.99, the company makes a gross profit of $29.99. If you subtract $5 dollars for cost of materials and labor, FCKH8.com is still walking away with $24.99! If you … Read more

My First Giveaway!

Happy Monday, everyone! I’m particularly happy on this Monday – not only because Halloween is only FOUR days away! – but also because I’m excited to announce The Feminist Feline’s first giveaway!

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I have partnered with Pam from Hodge Podge Moments in an awesome giveaway for Pam’s birthday!

Here are the prizes:

  • A box of goodies filled with a few of Pam’s favorite things
  • And for all you fellow bloggers out there: Ad space on Hodge Podge Moments and Wandering Forevermore!

You can enter the giveaway through the widget below. Please comment on Pam’s post for your first entry. Be sure to wish her a happy birthday!

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If you’re still reading, I have TWO guest posts that you can look forward to this week:

  • An op-ed critiquing the new cintroversial FCK H8 video on its use of young girls and the merits of this “non-profit” organization, by Alex Miller
  • An extremely brave friend of mine is going to share her sexual assault story from when she was abroad in New Zealand

Finally, I just have one question for you: What are you going to dress up as for Halloween? I have three costumes (it’s called HalloWEEKEND, … Read more

Halloween is Not the Time to Slut-Shame

This post was originally published in HauteMess Magazine.

“In the real world, Halloween is when kids dress up in costumes and beg for candy. In Girl World. Halloween is the one day a year when a girl can dress up like a total slut and no other girls can say anything else about it.”

Cady Heron’s beautiful description of Halloween sounds pretty accurate, but unfortunately, in the real real world, girls can’t dress up like “total sluts” without receiving judgmental stares and whispers from others.

Girls love to dress “slutty” on Halloween. Walk into a costume store and you are bombarded with a wall full of “sexy” costumes for women. From the traditional “Sexy Witch” and “Sexy Kitty” costumes to the more avante-garde “Sexy Corn on the Cob” and “Sexy Pizza” costumes, you can pretty much take anything and turn it into a skimpy costume for Halloween these days.

Now, I don’t mind if a girl wants to show a little skin. Women have the right to wear whatever they want and they shouldn’t be slut-shamed whenever they choose to wear a revealing outfit. What I do have a problem with, … Read more

Don’t Forget About #HeForShe

This post was originally published in HauteMess Magazine.

On September 20 Emma Watson, everyone’s favorite girl-next-door, delivered a powerful speech about feminism at the U.N. National Headquarters in New York. Why was Hermoine Granger chosen to make this speech? Watson is a Global Goodwill Ambassador for the U.N. and was chosen to deliver a speech introducing the U.N.’s new “HeForShe” campaign that inspires men to join the global fight for gender equality.

If you haven’t watched the speech yet, I strongly recommend that you do. If you’ve read a summary of the speech or even the entire speech in full, I still recommend that you watch it. Watson’s words are powerful and the passion she puts behind them is inspiring.

“The more I have spoken about feminism the more I have realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating,” Watson states. “If there is one thing I know for certain, it is that this has to stop.”

As I watched Watson explain why all people should be feminists and why it makes no sense for men and women to still be unequal in the year 2014, I couldn’t help but sorority snap the … Read more

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